Reframe.
Change your thoughts, change your outcomes, change your life. Once aware of your dominant negative thoughts, you can then reframe them. Keep in mind that Negativity Bias and other forms of distorted thinking trigger your emotional responses. Some say that thoughts actually create emotions.
Think of your least favorite person. Did that arouse anger or fear? Did your skin crawl?
Now think of your favorite food. Did you get warm fuzzies? Feel loved? Happy?
Thoughts have that power. Another example is repeat each statement below to yourself, take a beat, then scan your body and mind for how each one impacts you:
Statement 1: What’s wrong with me, things never work out?
Statement 2: I’m sorry this didn’t work out for me, maybe next time.
Hopefully, you felt the difference triggered by each statement and can understand how reframing your negative thoughts changes your emotional experiences.